how to deal a heart break
yes, the first apple, the apple of love is definitely the most eaten apple around the world followed by the other two apples. In an age where emotions and relationships are as fragile as fine bone china where even a fraction of disturbances of ego and attitude is more than enough to strike a cacophony, where you take relationships as objectives of selfish use, self-contentment, show-off, impasse and ultimately goal-oriented and driven by motives; where the threads of love, trust and respect are fugitive. If one relationship is over, people tend to look for another forgetting the inestimable moments and feelings one relationship brings along and the time spent in building the relationship while accepting the sane and insane qualities of the partner and the aftermath that person endures who is just not as strong as you to bear the heartburn. I too have gone through heartbreaks and still continue to rake in the moolah, but with age and experience, i am getting wiser and practical but not completely, you know i can lie to myself but not to my lovely readers. As a heart-heavy tormented teenager, nobody gave me out the ways to deal a heartbreak and i would doom myself with hunger, didn’t bath for days altogether, listened to sad songs on that old tape-recorder,reacted erroneously with anyone who talked about any other’s (third person’s) break-up, wasted my treasured time mourning the withdrawal of my partner from my life but never found guts to move ahead till someone approached from the other side. Why is it so that some people find it too difficult to move over while others see such ease in to going ahead with “available” tag nailed on them. I have figured out some ways to help you ease out the heartburn however there’s no permanent cure unless you are determined to let bygones be bygones :-
Focus on negatives not positives:- When a relationship is over, we miss the lovely and cuddly moments we spent together which gives more ache to the heart who’s already under the sun of the rejection but focus on the bad qualities your ex-partner had which drove you in to nuts or irritated you to heights so its easy for you to hate that person more.
Curse him/her to your heart’s content:- Whenever you miss those days of togetherness and your heart longs for encore, don’t give in to temptation, just abuse your ex till your heart start expelling into its heat, the heart will supply cool waves to your mind and body and you will calm down like anything; and if you find that abuses are scanty for what your ex did to you and your life, compare him with the shittiest people or animal with an exaggeration of your devil mind and all will start seem to be normal. And still if you stuffed with rebellious emotions so write the name of your ex on a paper and flush it. yes! You are right, this is what geet aka kareena Kapoor taught you in Jab We Met but i am only reminding you dearies(wink)
Recollect all good old single days :- Remember your days when you were not in relationship with your ex and ask yourself the following questions and remind yourself time and again and if you have a dreadful memory like me, make a chart of the questions and answers and stick to a place nearly visible and approachable by you or frequently visited by you say; loo or kitchen….
- Was i not happy and content with my life back then ?
- My Life is my, so why not love myself even if the other has withdrawn from the alliance?
- Have my self-love or self-appreciation suffered a jolt or am i still left with self-love? Is son, start loving and pampering yourself. Make sure that you are the most important person in your life.
- Why i am giving too much importance to a jerk like my ex who not only dishonored my feelings but also shackled my emotional and physical independence? Am i stuck? Break the web!
- And pledge yourself that you will remain an individual identity however the relationship status is!
Go out and party :- Stop languishing on the death of your relationship and go out and meet your friends who you have left meeting after this ex came in to your life, party hard (like a wild animal who once escaped in to a civilized world but for he was missing his habitat,came back running) but with a thumb rule of “No drinking and No casual sex”. In fact, meeting and socializing with unknown people make you forget your own worries because everyone has a past with you not being an exception but we have to accept the past to move in to future. Put on a lot of trendy makeup, buy lots of new dresses, share lots of happy selfies on all your social media accounts and of course, change your relationship status too and not to forget, throw all the belongings of your ex lying with you.
No default mindset :- Yes! We agree that you are sad and torn but that doesn’t mean that you need to rush in to another relationship so soon just because you are feeling emotionally drained and insufficient. You deserve yourself the best so give yourself time to heal and understand the complexities of the relationships, and yes to ponder over what went wrong in the past relationship.
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