to give up or to hold on PART-2
To be continued…
That’s the harsh reality of the strange society we live in. We are hypocrites and we also keep our further generations in dilemma/ confusion because we ourselves are not clear as to what we want to teach our kids, whether we want them to believe and follow what we have been following for long or we want them to follow what we dreamt of following but never taken the courage to do so, such is social pressure! Lifespans spent dreaming something else and following something else for we believe in pleasing people around us! We must please our parents, friends, siblings, peer group, teachers, professors, girlfriends, wives, boyfriends, husbands, in- laws, kids and the lifespan is complete! What a waste of human lives! It is true that we are born with a pre- determined destiny but in a society like ours, destiny is given to us by our society, they condition us from day one!
lets talk about book
The story of a suicide” is an interesting kneads of love, lust, ego, hurt, friendship, hate and betrayal. The threads of story are interwoven intelligently with in the characters. I loved reading the novel as it’s a gripping tale of modern day complexities of life and how today’s generation deal with it.
Here is the detailed synopsis of the story which i will try to explain as per my trysts with life and how i overcome complexities and failures.
Characters:- All characters are almost identical to real life youngsters we come across in our day to day life Be it Charu, Sam, Mani and Hari. They are full of hopes, guts, enthusiasm. They are not afraid to accept challenges and are risk takers. They are fun loving and careful people for we always think that being young is equal to being careless and reckless. Charu is a loudmouth who calls spade a spade is not afraid of consequences and is upright in what she thinks and when she acts. She’s a helping hand to her friends and can give tough competition to anyone playing with her emotions. While Sam is a deadly mix of good-vs-bad-thrown-in-one-guy who’s a loyal friend to Aditya and a technology freak as he uses it to take revenge from his ex. He’s a regular today’s guy who gets provoked easily and never relents until his male ego is satisfied and revenge mission accomplished. He’s perfect live example of raging male hormones that would go to any length to quash the enemy for as soon as he read Charu’s FB post he was hell bent to teach her a lesson though she never mentioned his name in the post and nobody knew it was targeted at him. As for Mani, he is an emotionally stable guy despite having a troubled childhood. Hunger never broke up but made him stronger for he welcomed conditions be if comfy or not very easily. Being exposed to too many complexities and challenges at early age, he accepted them with grace like the way he accepted his own personality of being gay and was very comfortable in his skin whereas his mate Hari despite having a comfortable home and upbringing was ashamed of being gay as he was emotionally ungratified because he mentioned his mom suffered from depression and fought her own battles, was never emotionally available for him. His father was always on tour and HIS maternal uncle administered lifelong emotional wounds for inflicting pain of insecurity and breach of trust. Above all, Hari never found the courage to talk about it. Alex is a too-good-to-be-true-character who’s handsome, qualified but very principled and strong opinionated.
Plot: – Though the plot is engrossing and one can’t leave it halfway once started reading. There are certain things in the plot which somehow are contrasting or alien to the story and the flow of story halts for some time. I found the part in which Alex lets Charu sleeps in his house overnight a bit exaggerated and out of the place. Though Mani is a good friend of Charu, she could have talked to him for her fears but instead she chose Alex and that too night and requested him for overnight stay as she had soft corner for him but how Alex being professor and also married can allow a student for the same and that too when he stays alone. This question arose not because i have tiny mentality about morality but knowing about our social behavioral patterns, it can easily become a curse for the lady which Alex knew but still allowed her, perhaps he didn’t believed in rules of social life just like Charu Agree, morality is a personal choice and individual guard. I certainly wonder over the character of Mani who had a traumatic past with his mother as his sole physical and emotional companion but when he was on the journey to success, he gave up just because he couldn’t cope with English. Now days, English learning has become too easy with institutes running all over and the material spread all over the internet, on top he could have asked his friend Charu to help him out but he chose the dreaded way which is a little chaotic to swallow. Hari is genuinely loved and supported by his family especially his sister Anju. Despite her reassuring him that she’s always there to support him, he never discussed his past. Though i agree, the video chapter was too-quick-to-absorb-shock-chapter in his life and then his dad-threatening-suicide was another earthquake for him but he could have confided to his sister and his sister might have been able to help him or make her parents understand the situation but he chose otherwise.
The pain of judgment was heavier than the weight of his body. Half way through the war, there was no time to ponder, he had to win or die before defeat
He never confided in to anyone for he was fearful of getting judged. He either had to win or die before he defeat simply means he was afraid to loose. He never wanted to fail which was a taboo for him for he never faced rejection of failure before. He had a protected childhood wherein he was not allowed to commit mistakes and get corrected. Though Charu is the most original character to come across, She seems to be a carbon copy of me in terms of her uprightness, her charisma, her boldness, her non-nonchalant attitude but the similarities end there only. She seems to have guys issues with her with a kind of hatred oozing out of her body language and her actions but her character is not completely told for how has been her childhood to why she almost hate men! Sometimes she acts really weird and confusing like when she fore-played with Sam in dark room but left him hanging all of a sudden to her sudden outburst on Facebook wherein she only instigated the guy for physical intimacy and then blamed him instead. Her character can be clearly understood once we relive her past which is not mentioned. Sam also suffers from male ego issues and he can’t accept defeat but he’s a lover at heart but his testosterone come in way of his emotions. He’s a tech-geek as he’s always tweeting. Today’s youngsters update their statues and tweet starting from brushing to bathing to sneezing to constipation to anything in the world, this is so true. Sam is a jealous bastard who writes blogs in frustration and misuses his technical knowledge to destroy his ex. His character is also not defined from the background.
Sequence of events unfolding:-It is gripping to read the sequence of events with wild dreams and perfect narration thrown in time to time to show fears, insecurities, hidden emotions of characters with livid characters as original as a movie is being displayed live and feeling nightmarish. The writer perfects in giving unexpected unfolding of events except at one place that we already know by halfway that the culprit is Sam which could have been not given away too soon. After that, the interest in the story vanishes for some time till again Charu leaves her mobile with Mani and something new creeps in and suspense starts building in.
Red-light areas for parents:-
- Though every parent is determined to serve everything on a platter to their kids rather than letting them fight their own battles and guiding them through never letting them decide about their lives, they forget, in the process they are making their kids physically and emotionally dependent on them. They are spoon fed and never taste failure which makes them to either win or die before they get defeated just as Hari did. Had he been taught that winning and losing is part of the game, he would have never taken the drastic step. They treat their kids even as kids only even if they cross their middle age and want them to decide for them making them emotionally vulnerable and never trusting their own individual decisions and never letting them fall and rise. And god forbids, if the child is not listening to them, they use term “SUICIDE” as an emotional tool to correct their forgetful kids. Indian Parents often use suicide as to keep their kids walking as per their terms and conditions once they grow up as they find no alternative to set them straight for they are too big to hit or abuse so they choose emotional blackmail. Their shadows always hang on their kids. PLZ refrain.
- Kindly believe your kids for what they are saying even if you believe that they are cooking stories but even for cooking something, you need raw material.. They belong to you, so do you. They are too small to defend themselves. Please be available to them physically and emotionally however busy you are. How much you are earning is directly proportional to the memories your child id collecting which will stay with them life time. You can work for some more years but their childhood will never come back.
- Kindly give them a noise less childhood for them to cherish lifetime. Aditya’s words haunt me like anything when he says-
“Do you really love her?” asked Aditya. “But you have been unhappy with her, perhaps both of you are seeking different things and that’s creating all the friction.”
Yes! partners seeking different things are bound to have noise around their voicing which is enough to distress their children.
Word of caution for Youngsters:
“Much of our problems can be negated by killing our impulsive and reflexive responses. Aren’t our responses mostly to fight? Inflicting pain on ourselves with the hope that our pain will hurt the other is plain stupid. People just don’t care. We know this, probably that’s why it hurts us so much,” Mani said.
That’s exactly true for we want to punish others for putting us in emotional trouble and causing us pain, no one is bothered. You will be forgotten just like an old chapter but in the process, you will hurt people who love you for what you are, who support you for whatever you do, who walk with you when you feel tired, who criticize you when you are wronged. These people are your parents, your siblings, your friends. Don’t punish them for your selfish reasons. You are much more than how much marks you get, how much English you can speak, how beautiful/handsome you are, how fat/thin you are, how good you can cook/sing/laugh/write/learn.. You are much much more than all this. Stop comparing yourself to others. You are unique. You are precious.
I have observed many things of life while reading “Story of Suicide” which I relate to and you should do too! Don’t forget to spread the message. Read here
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